Peace Over Patterns

This morning, I woke up to the Moon in Taurus. That explained the grounded, safe feeling I noticed the night before — a calm I don’t always recognize. Historically, my nervous system has done the opposite, ping-ponging between anxiety and overthinking.

So yes, Moon in Taurus felt like this simple truth: peace over patterns.

Patterns are the familiar behaviors we repeat — even when they hurt — because they feel known. Choosing peace means breaking those cycles, even when the old way feels easier or more comfortable.

How many of us are only now realizing we stayed in relationships that didn’t truly serve us? So deep in it that leaving felt impossible — while both people wanted completely different things. And somehow, you had already given them the moon, the stars, and everything in between. That part.

The patterns sounded like this:

• I’ll meet people where they lack.

• I’ll fill silence when they won’t meet me where I am.

• I’ll overcompensate for my boundaries.

  
  

For a long time, I thought my nurturing, over giving nature was just “who I was. ”But, I learned something important: nurturing is not the problem. It’s how God made me — my gift of compassion. What I lacked were guardrails.

Life wasn’t teaching me not to love. It was teaching me to protect what’s valuable — because not everyone deserves full access.

My attachment style has been disorganized, fearful-avoidant — craving intimacy while fearing it. I often attracted avoidant partners, which only confirmed my fears and reinforced the cycle.

Healing meant breaking patterns, not blaming myself.

That looked like:

• Stop giving too much before commitment is honored

• Stop performing

• Let people meet me where I am

As women, we don’t have to perform to be chosen. We are not auditions. We choose.

That’s where many of us get it wrong — doing wifely things without being a wife, apologizing for boundaries, filling gaps that aren’t ours to fill. And sis… that’s too much.

My journey into self-awareness showed me this wasn’t about being “too much” — it was about learning self-value. A lesson rooted even deeper than me, passed down through generations. I want to be the one who breaks that cycle.

In an article by Keema Da Sunflower — which inspired this reflection — she wrote:

“Some people never figure out why they keep ending up in the same cycles. They think they’re unworthy of love or connection, when really — they just never knew better.”

That truth landed.

Every pattern isn’t a punishment — it’s a portal. An invitation to choose differently.

I’m learning that I don’t have to shrink, dim my light, or abandon myself to be loved. Every relationship was a mirror — showing me who I was at the time. And when you outgrow that version of yourself, it’s okay to let the relationship go.

Silence taught me what signs never could. And peace is no longer boring — it’s freedom.

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